Emotional Intelligence

Pull “Interesting” Out Of Your Everyday Vocabulary And Improve Your Emotional Intelligence  You get into a conversation with co-workers in the office and talk about how hard it was trying to fit the small budget into a critical project. Somebody says, “That’s interesting.” and stops right there, not explaining why he finds the subject interesting. Somebody else comments that the project allotment being small may have had to do with the new finance guy who had no clue of the team’s real needs. Again, somebody comes up with “I find that interesting.” What The Heck, Does “INTERESTING” Mean? “I thought the convention was rather interesting.” … “I’m interested in reading that new book on China.” When used in conversations, “interesting” comes across as something you say when you don’t want to say anything, but feel you have to, for fear of being perceived as unsociable or indifferent. Sometimes you tend to use “interesting” when you don’t know how to express your thoughts verbally, or when you simply don’t want to entertain your true feelings deep inside. In other words when you use “interesting” in formal or informal talks and not expound on why you find such subject or item interesting … it means nothing! So, doesn’t it make sense to delete the word from your vocabulary? Go for honesty instead. It’s a whole lot more productive because it’ll show you listened to somebody and took the time to think through what was said so you can give a sensible, useful response or comment. It’s when you do this that you get more in tune with your emotions that should lead to more productive, relevant interactions. In the process you just might learn more about yourself and other people around you. You shall have then raised the level of your emotional intelligence. Does This Mean You Can’t Use “Interesting” In Future Interactions? Of course you can! But use it for the right reasons and within the correct context. In most cases “interesting” doesn’t contribute anything to a conversation. In fact, it would appear that the person who says it, doesn’t want to get involved in whatever is being talked about. It’s a cop-out, nothing abrasive .. nothing encouraging and nothing too profound either. It’s just a neutral cop-out. “Interesting” very rarely means that a person or a thing or a situation is exactly and truly interesting. So the next time the word crops up in your head and you inadvertently use it, be conscious. Break down what you mean by it. Does it mean it’s something new to you or something that never entered your mind? Do you believe it’s a good idea but today may not be the right time? Do you sincerely think it’s a terrific concept but not everybody will buy into it? Then, express these things! Process your thoughts. Try to figure out what’s really in your mind before saying it out loud. You’d be amazed at how many better, more appropriate and honest words and phrases are available out there. Find them and improve your EQ.

Is it in software engineering or the exciting film-producing industry that have the professions with the happiest workers? As it turned out, a recent large survey, (borne out by a CareerBliss tally of 9,800 company reviews, on a scale of one to five) says both these industries are regarded to have jobs that make people pretty satisfied and happy. In the order of their rankings the top five industries perceived to have the happiest employees are: The software publishing industry. It got the top score particularly on the evaluated subject of “people you work with.” This makes a lot of sense. Software developers are generally smart, very tech savvy while being imaginative at the same time. The electronic broadcast media industry (Radio and TV). With a rating of 3.9, bosses and colleagues who work in this industry are well-liked and respected. The corporate culture is well-appreciated as is the job itself, which is generally regarded as rewarding. The Educational services. To find this in the top 5 industries with the happiest workers is heartening. It means those teachers and professors we teasingly describe as being grouchy and crabby are actually happy teaching kids and teens and guiding them towards the right career direction. These are the men and women who devote their lives to teaching History and algebra and loving it because they find it meaningful. They’re intelligent and caring. They want nothing more than to make a positive impact on their students’ lives. Management of corporations and business outfits. For those no-nonsense guys, who are pretty much into turning organizations into lean and mean, effective machines and making great profits at the end of each year, it is in this field that they’d be in their elements. It is here they can have an extremely fulfilling, satisfying career. Motion picture and video producing industries. Evaluated pretty much like the top-rated industries, people who work here are happiest because they like their bosses. They like their peers. They like the way they work. Naturally, working in this industry can be an everyday thrill as chances are, you’d bump into Angelina Jolie or Steven Spielberg. The rush you’d get writing a screenplay that gets approved and produced, or designing costumes of 15th century Spain and getting nominated in the Oscars can be mindboggling. And the industries or services where you’ve got some of the unhappiest people? At the bottom of the list are 1) Administrative and Support 2) Waste Management and, 3) Remediation services. This is where you’ll find everyday secretaries and garbage collectors. These, by and large are pretty awful jobs where you get snapped at a lot, blamed for the mistakes of other people while going through days of tedious tasks as answering phone calls and typing letters. Growth opportunities? It’s a dead end. The data that’s been made available here may help give you an idea on where you might want to direct your career. The important thing to remember is being true to yourself particularly in what will make you happy as you go about looking or assessing your current job. My happiness at work job is not listed there neither!!