It’s been proven that people with high EQ are more successful than those who haven’t mastered their emotions. In fact, people with high EQ earn more money. Forget the old advice of leaving your feelings at the front door when you enter your office. It no longer applies!
There’s scientific evidence that we inherit intelligence, but it’s not the same with EQ. We weren’t born with emotional intelligence. It’s developed over the years. So, don’t worry if you think you don’t have a high EQ. It’s a work in progress.
On the other hand, maybe you’re just unaware you’re already emotionally intelligent. Check out the traits of emotionally intelligent people below. Perhaps, all these apply to you.
- You recognize the emotions you experience.
Emotions and feelings are two different things. The former actually gives rise to what you feel. For instance, happiness and excitement cause pleasant feelings. The opposite is true with anger and fear.
People with high EQ know why they feel good or bad. Sounds simple enough but it isn’t.
But, if you can quickly identify what your emotions are, good for you! You’re one of only 36% who’s capable of doing this.
- You master your emotions.
You’re going to be late for work because of a road accident or your train is experiencing technical difficulties. Despite either, you’re not upset because you recognize these are beyond your control. Also, you’re thick-skinned. No matter how hard others may try to annoy or provoke you, you just keep your cool.
You welcome constructive criticism knowing this will help you improve yourself. When disagreements arise at work, you never take it personally.
- You’re aware of other people’s emotions.
Not only do you listen to what people say, you also strive to understand what they’re feeling. You show empathy and this enables you to correctly judge another person’s character.
With this trait, you know how to deal with each individual at home or at work. If you’re a leader, you gain the respect and trust of your subordinates.
- You always forgive yourself and others.
Like everyone, you make mistakes. But, you learn from them and move on. You may feel regret but this doesn’t hold you back. As the old saying goes – it’s not about how many times you fall but how many times you get back up.
When you can forgive yourself, it’s not hard to forgive others. You understand that lapses in judgment can lead to errors. Forgiving has an added benefit. It improves our mental and emotional well-being.
- You don’t fear change.
Take note that fear alone is not a negative emotion. It keeps us safe from harm and danger. Fear of change is different altogether.
Many people desire to remain secure within a comfort zone when faced with unknowns. But, when you welcome new beginnings and adapt to them, you are emotionally intelligent!
- You have healthy relationships.
Persons with high EQs interact well with others. They’re altruistic so they always consider others. But, they never lose their individuality. Instead of competing with their colleagues, they support them. And they live happy lives at home.
If you possess all of these traits and work hard, you can look forward to a more rewarding and happier life. Learn each and soon you’ll realize these make a big difference.